AS LONG AS WE BOTH SHALL LIVE...
IS NOT THE SAME AS HAPPILY EVER AFTER!
Not a complaint or rant or anything bad against Stephanie. It's just something I thought of today driving home.
It seems to me when I hear unmarrieds and young people in love talk about their relationships (and their relationships' shortcomings), they have unreal expectations about what life is supposed to be like.
I pretty much wasn't concentrating on what the minister said during our ceremony (sorry, wake, but can you remember yours?). But I'm pretty sure neither of them told us life together was going to be perfect and free from stress and struggles. We weren't promised "happily ever after."
Instead, I'll bet there was mention of certain tough times coming - job losses, illnesses, death of loved ones, disappointments.
There was probably also mention of good times - births and birthdays, anniversaries and commencements, reunions with family and friends.
All shared together with that one we both chose to love. Shared for strength in tough times. Shared joy in the good.
Happily ever after is the decision that comes after you realize it wasn't part of the original package.
Not a complaint or rant or anything bad against Stephanie. It's just something I thought of today driving home.
It seems to me when I hear unmarrieds and young people in love talk about their relationships (and their relationships' shortcomings), they have unreal expectations about what life is supposed to be like.
I pretty much wasn't concentrating on what the minister said during our ceremony (sorry, wake, but can you remember yours?). But I'm pretty sure neither of them told us life together was going to be perfect and free from stress and struggles. We weren't promised "happily ever after."
Instead, I'll bet there was mention of certain tough times coming - job losses, illnesses, death of loved ones, disappointments.
There was probably also mention of good times - births and birthdays, anniversaries and commencements, reunions with family and friends.
All shared together with that one we both chose to love. Shared for strength in tough times. Shared joy in the good.
Happily ever after is the decision that comes after you realize it wasn't part of the original package.
posted by Kurt at 11:26 PM
1 Comments:
You said you don't remember what the minister said, but you're sure it wasn't happily ever after but some form of "there's gonna be good times and bad times" and that you were encouraged to stick it out together. You did hear. Just not that day. Seems that in the vast majority of weddings I do the message or sermon that's given is a summary of the pre-marital work we've done together. and though it's addressed to the blest couple I know they're not hearing a word I'm saying. It's more a reminder and word of encouragement to the family and friends who have gathered to share in the joy of the moment. Some don't have a clue what awaits the newlyweds. Others know it all too clearly. And more often than not, a bunch of them are listening. And sometimes those who've forgotten find great joy and rekindled romance when they remember that as long as we both shall live is not the same as happily ever after... until we realize or remember that they're not the same. And then they are.
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